Why, of all the things to do, would you open a BDSM & Fetish Club?
It’s a question I've been asked many times over the previous 2 years and sometimes I ask myself the same thing. I've gone through more than my share of stress and anxiety in life and my training and professional experience in business management left me with a full understanding of what it could be like.
We're now 2 years in and Splinter is going strong. It's been a hell of a lot of work and still will be, constantly building it up, making it the place we dream of. There have been times when it’s all gotten to me, stress and anxiety rearing their head. When that happens now I take myself back twenty years to the 15-year-old me. The me so crippled by stress, panic, anxiety depression and hopelessness that standing up or talking were sometimes impossible. The me who gave up, lost all hope and tried to take his life.
I remember what my mind was then and I imagine the awe that kid would have felt to know what was in his future: living in a big house, in his favourite suburb, sleeping every night with a wonderful and sexy woman (with HUGE boobies!), who loved him just as much as he loved her. A whole workshop, kitted out with all the woodworking machines. Not just riding a motorbike but having owned and ridden a world class superbike!! Surrounded by a sea of amazing friends, people who make me feel wanted and loved.
And on top of all that, my job is owning and running a club; not just any club but a BDSM and Fetish community club! You're going to work today? I'm sleeping in and then going to “work” at a fetish club! That 15-year-old had been through absolute nightmares, and he would still face just as bad in the next decade. But knowing this, he might have put down those pills, saved himself another horror.
There are many reasons we do what we do with our lives. I wanted to help the community I love, to offer what I could, even if it meant giving up some of what I have. I want to see us all happy, comfortable and proud of who and what we are. That's what Splinter is, but it’s also something for me. I can take pride in what Red and I have achieved. I take pride in the love and support that everyone gives. I can let the child inside my head go “Look at what I've done! It’s awesome!”
Some try to bring me down, I'll ignore them. Some criticise, to those I say, only criticise if you can also offer a practical solution. Some say I'm in it for the money. Hah! I had to sell my beloved superbike to open Splinter and still struggle to pay the bills.
I do it for the excitement that comes before an event. I do it for the joy of seeing other Kinksters and Fetishists enjoy themselves. I do it for the pride when someone says Splinter is awesome and the greater pride when they come back again. I do it for the fantastic energy when people are there.
I do it because I would rather live like this, than go back to sitting at a desk, financially secure, but already dead inside.
Hugs to all,
See you at the next Splinter Event!
It’s a question I've been asked many times over the previous 2 years and sometimes I ask myself the same thing. I've gone through more than my share of stress and anxiety in life and my training and professional experience in business management left me with a full understanding of what it could be like.
We're now 2 years in and Splinter is going strong. It's been a hell of a lot of work and still will be, constantly building it up, making it the place we dream of. There have been times when it’s all gotten to me, stress and anxiety rearing their head. When that happens now I take myself back twenty years to the 15-year-old me. The me so crippled by stress, panic, anxiety depression and hopelessness that standing up or talking were sometimes impossible. The me who gave up, lost all hope and tried to take his life.
I remember what my mind was then and I imagine the awe that kid would have felt to know what was in his future: living in a big house, in his favourite suburb, sleeping every night with a wonderful and sexy woman (with HUGE boobies!), who loved him just as much as he loved her. A whole workshop, kitted out with all the woodworking machines. Not just riding a motorbike but having owned and ridden a world class superbike!! Surrounded by a sea of amazing friends, people who make me feel wanted and loved.
And on top of all that, my job is owning and running a club; not just any club but a BDSM and Fetish community club! You're going to work today? I'm sleeping in and then going to “work” at a fetish club! That 15-year-old had been through absolute nightmares, and he would still face just as bad in the next decade. But knowing this, he might have put down those pills, saved himself another horror.
There are many reasons we do what we do with our lives. I wanted to help the community I love, to offer what I could, even if it meant giving up some of what I have. I want to see us all happy, comfortable and proud of who and what we are. That's what Splinter is, but it’s also something for me. I can take pride in what Red and I have achieved. I take pride in the love and support that everyone gives. I can let the child inside my head go “Look at what I've done! It’s awesome!”
Some try to bring me down, I'll ignore them. Some criticise, to those I say, only criticise if you can also offer a practical solution. Some say I'm in it for the money. Hah! I had to sell my beloved superbike to open Splinter and still struggle to pay the bills.
I do it for the excitement that comes before an event. I do it for the joy of seeing other Kinksters and Fetishists enjoy themselves. I do it for the pride when someone says Splinter is awesome and the greater pride when they come back again. I do it for the fantastic energy when people are there.
I do it because I would rather live like this, than go back to sitting at a desk, financially secure, but already dead inside.
Hugs to all,
See you at the next Splinter Event!
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